Confidence is overrated.

Here’s how I make decisions without being sure.

Jun 29, 2025

Hello from the Paris airport 🇫🇷 I’m sipping a very average cappuccino while my kids are fully locked into their iPads, something they haven’t touched since our last trip six months ago (which is wild). They’re thrilled. I’m caffeinated. Everyone’s winning…until the lack-of-sleep tantrums kick-in.

It’s been a nonstop few months. We opened SF’s first Wellness Social Club, hosted 20+ events across both MNTSTUDIOs, and made some big hires. I launched a new Toolkit Series on the podcast, squeezed in a girls trip to NYC, and prepped for five weeks in France 😮‍💨

Along the way, I’ve spoken on a bunch of podcasts, panels, and fireside chats. And one theme keeps coming up:

“What made you think it would work to leave your corporate job?”

“What made you believe you could buy a Pilates studio and build something like a Wellness Social Club?”

(BTW: we’ve actually bought two businesses. We acquired a Pilates studio last October in addition to MNTSTUDIO Palo Alto. I haven’t shared much about that one yet, but more on that soon.)

That theme: confidence in making “risky” decisions. The truth? I wasn’t. Not even close. What I was… was curious.

That mindset, curiosity over confidence, is what’s guided every big move I’ve made. From raising my hand at work before I felt “ready,” to launching a business that blends wellness, work, and community, to figuring out how to make our first summer abroad actually work as a family.

I’ve never had all the answers. I’m not one of those people who needs every detail dialed in before I start. What I am is someone who’s really good at asking why, and then moving forward before I talk myself out of it. The abstract never has intimidated me, it inspires me.

We wait for confidence like it’s supposed to show up and tell us, “Yep, now’s the time.” But confidence is built from action. It’s a side effect, not a prerequisite.

And honestly? What’s harder is acting when you don’t know how it’ll go. That’s where most people stop. Here’s how I keep going:

Start with a question.
Every new chapter started with “What if?” Not a 20-slide pitch deck. (Though, yes, you know I love a good OKR exercise once things get rolling.)

Create order from chaos.
I break things down into systems. Tiny steps. Low-stakes tests. Sometimes it’s a Google Doc. Sometimes it’s a messy scratch pad of notes. It’s not about polish, it’s about movement.

Decide like a scientist, not a perfectionist.
New ideas are hypotheses. Not lifelong commitments. You don’t need certainty. You need curiosity and a plan.

That mindset is what helped me climb fast in tech. It’s what got me to bet on myself (again and again). And it’s what’s made the biggest difference in how I live and lead today.

It’s why “fail fast and iterate” is built into every decision I make. And it’s why when someone asks me “How did you know?” I’ll keep saying: I didn’t.

But I asked questions. And then I moved forward.

So this month, if you’re sitting with something new, something you can’t shake… don’t wait around to feel ready. It will never be “the time.”

Ask one good question. Take one small step. Let curiosity be what moves you.

Currently

ENTERTAINING my kids on an 11 hour flight. Some purchases: sticker stamper, magnetic puzzle, mini building blocks, puffy sticker books, play putty with hidden gems
GRIEVING The loss of our dog Bear I’ve cried everyday since, if you are in a similar season with a family pet, I shared how we communicated this to our kids
REMINISCING Last summer in Portugal Nine very transformative weeks that changed our life’s trajectory, no I’m not exaggerating
BUYING XXL mesh beach bag with zipper to haul the thousands of things for beach days
WATCHING Ginny & Georgia just binged Season 3 during my evening bedtime routines

All The Things

My Summer capsule wardrobe is ready to make its debut. Shop the full edit here.

Remly Red Leather Sandal loving a pop of red
Alex Mill Chloe Linen Dress can be dressed up or down
Madewell Linen Sweater Tank prefer knit tanks for an elevated look
Leather Belt this will go with all my brown and red colors
White Linen Shirt a classic
Linen Simple Pant a better linen pant does not exist
Handwoven Tote big enough for your laptop or all the snacks/water bottles you are carrying with your kids
Manebi Raffina Bag for date nights