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Shortlist vol. 11

Barbara Mighdoll — Tue, 16 Jun 2026 13:03:02 GMT

I can’t believe I’m actually typing these words… but in just one week I’ll be heading to San Sebastián, Spain, for the very first Roam Collective!

After months of meticulous planning and running 1000 miles per hour, I am so ready for this European summer. When it comes to packing for a long trip, my philosophy is simple: pick a clear color scheme to maximize versatility.

The past two summers I’ve purchased some seriously standout brands that have become my go-tos for the season: DISSH, Posse, A. Emery, Reformation, Donni and Aritzia. Here is everything I’m packing for my Euro summer.

Shop my full list here

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Want to learn more about spending your summer in Europe while working?

Roam Collective is study abroad meets summer camp, designed for working parents who want Europe without pausing their careers. After spending two summers in Europe, I co-founded this community to make it easier for working parents to make this happen. What you get:

Camp during U.S. work hours so you can actually work
Vetted housing to meet your standards
Instant village of like-minded families ready to say yes to adventure

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You're already a multi-hyphenate. You just haven't claimed it.

Barbara Mighdoll — Wed, 10 Jun 2026 13:03:43 GMT

Can I ask you something?

How many different versions of yourself do you show up as before 10am?

You’re a mom getting kids out the door. A professional with a full inbox waiting. Maybe a partner trying to actually connect with the person sleeping next to you. A person with creative ideas you haven’t had time to pursue. A human being who’d really like a hot cup of coffee for once.

That’s not chaos. That’s a multi-hyphenate life.

And this week’s podcast episode is for every woman who’s been living that life but hasn’t yet given herself permission to own it.

ICYMI I’m re-releasing some of the episodes that resonated most in the history of The New Modern Mom Podcast as I gear up for our relaunch this summer.

Up now: Hitha Palapu. CEO of Roshan Pharmaceuticals, author of two books, speaker, and mom of two boys. She’s one of the most honest, clear-eyed people I’ve talked to about what it actually takes to hold multiple identities without losing yourself.

We got into her Gentle Wednesdays practice, the weekly marriage meeting she swears has made their date nights genuinely fun again, and the Magic 20 List, which is now the first thing I’m trying when I get overwhelmed by a new idea.

But the part that stayed with me most? She talked about knowing when to close a chapter. How the decision that looks like quitting from the outside is actually one of the most powerful multi-hyphenate moves you can make.

This one is worth the listen (or re-listen).

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Summer Abroad Camp List: Southern Italy

Barbara Mighdoll — Fri, 22 May 2026 16:07:30 GMT

Let’s talk about Southern Italy for a summer abroad, including Naples, the Amalfi Coast, Puglia, and the islands of Sicily and Sardina.

There is only one reason I personally haven’t seriously considered this region: Southern Italy in July is hot. Relentlessly hot. You have to go into this experience knowing and expecting Mediterranean sun that slows everyone down. I’m originally from Dallas and recall every single summer growing up being miserably hot… hopping from pool to A/C to lake on rotation. That’s not me. But if you love a good toasty day, keep reading…

The positive tradeoff is that the heat is exactly what forces the region into its slow-paced lifestyle. Because it’s too hot to rush, you’re practically required to trade the frantic pace of American life for a late-afternoon riposo (siesta), long sea days, and a lifestyle centered around the evening hours. Moving here means stepping away from highly curated tourist spaces and sliding into the authentic, slow, and sun-drenched ways of the Southern Italians.

Logistics: Getting There & Staying There

Ease of Getting There:

Campania: Fly into Naples International Airport (NAP), which is highly central and just a 15-minute taxi ride from the historic center.
Puglia: Use Bari Karol Wojtyła Airport (BRI) or Brindisi Airport (BDS) depending on which side of the coast you base yourself.
Sicily: Fly into Palermo Falcone-Borsellino (PMO) for the western side of the island or Catania-Fontanarossa (CTA) for the east.
Sardinia: Fly into Olbia Costa Smeralda (OLB) or Alghero Fertilia (AHO) if staying on the northern side of the island or Cagliari Elmas (CAG) for the far south.
Flights: Seasonal direct flights from the East Coast straight into Naples and Palermo are common. If you are flying from the West Coast, it’s going to be a long travel day(s). And expect big delays if flying an Italian airline.

Getting Around: Stroller vs. Scooter Realism

The Stroller: You need a highly compact, lightweight travel model with durable wheels. A baby or toddler carrier is way easier.

Kid Scooters: Leave them at home.
Is a Car Necessary?
- Naples: No. Use the Metro and regional trains (like the Circumvesuviana) for day trips.
- Puglia & Sicily: Yes, absolutely. If your camp is in Siracusa, Trapani, or the Puglian countryside, you cannot survive without a rental car.
- Sardinia? Yes, absolutely. While you can manage without one in main city hubs like Cagliari, you cannot manage a summer camp routine or explore the island without a car.

Housing:

Naples: A 2-bedroom in a family-safe, upscale neighborhood like Vomero or Posillipo ranges from $2,700–$5,000/month.
Sicily: High-end coastal apartments in Palermo (Mondello area), Trapani, or Siracusa (Ortigia) have a large range from $2,400–$4,000/month in July.
Puglia: A central apartment in Bari or a traditional country house (masseria) further south in Brindisi ranges from $3,000-$7,000/month.
Sardinia: In the ultra-exclusive Costa Smeralda (Porto Cervo/Porto Rotondo), expect high-season July rates of $4,500–$8,500/month. If you look slightly further south to San Teodoro, or west to Alghero, apartments range from $2,500–$4,500/month.

The “American Reality” Check:

Air Conditioning: This is an absolute dealbreaker. Do not trust descriptions that say “naturally cool stone walls.” You must explicitly verify that your rental has high-functioning A/C in every bedroom.
Laundry: Washers are standard, but you will be hanging your laundry on a drying rack on the balcony.
The “Riposo” (Siesta): The region shuts down completely between 1:30 p.m. and 4:30 p.m. Grocers, shops, and restaurants close so everyone can escape the heat.
Trash Management: Southern Italian cities, particularly parts of Naples and Palermo, struggle with public waste management. It can be jarring for American families. Focus your housing searches on residential, upscale neighborhoods to minimize this.

The Weather: What to Expect in July

The Temperature: Expect daily highs ranging from 85°F to 93°F in Naples, while Puglia and inland Sicily can easily climb to 95°F–100°F during a heatwave.
The Evening Vibe: The entire community revives after 7:30 p.m. when the sun goes down and a cooler sea breeze rolls in.

The Southern Italy Food Scene & Typical Schedule

What to Eat:

Pizza Napoletana (Campania): Wood-fired, soft, and simplistic.
Panzerotti & Taralli (Puglia): Fried dough pockets filled with tomato and mozzarella, and crunchy savory seed rings.
Granita con Brioche (Sicily): Semi-frozen fresh fruit or ice served with a warm, fluffy sweet bun.
Pane Carasau (Sardinia): A paper-thin, incredibly crispy flatbread. Drizzled with local olive oil and sea salt (called Pane Guttiau).
Street Seafood: Paper cones packed with fried calamari and small local fish bought fresh by the harbor.

Typical Eating Schedule:

Lunch: 1:00 p.m. – 2:30 p.m. The main meal of the day before the afternoon shutdown.
The “Merenda”: 5:00 p.m. The late afternoon snack, usually gelato or fruit, to hold everyone over until a late dinner.
Dinner: 8:30 p.m. – 10:30 p.m. Restaurants rarely even open their doors before 8:00 p.m.

Things to Do With Kids

The Ruins of Pompeii & Herculaneum (Campania): Walk through real ancient Roman cities frozen in time. Opt for Herculaneum with younger kids. It’s smaller, better preserved, and offers more shade.
Family Pizza Making Class (Campania): Book a workshop in Naples where master pizzaioli teach kids how to stretch the dough, throw on fresh toppings, and watch it rise in a wood-fired oven.
Città della Scienza (Campania): This is a massive, hands-on science museum featuring a great interactive planetarium and a museum dedicated entirely to the human body.
Puppet Theatre / Opera dei Pupi (Sicily): Take the kids to a traditional Sicilian marionette show.
Mondello Beach Day (Sicily): Spend a classic day renting umbrellas and chairs on the white sands of Mondello.
Bioparco di Sicilia (Sicily): A zoo and botanical garden that features life-sized dinosaur models hidden along the garden paths.
Syracuse Boat Tour (Sicily): Rent a small boat from Ortigia island to explore sea caves and swim in crystalline water.
Zoosafari Fasanolandia (Puglia): One of the largest drive-through safari parks in Europe.
Grotte di Castellana (Puglia): Escape the sweltering July heat by exploring this massive, spectacular underground cave system that stays a cool 65°F year-round.
Sardegna in Miniatura (Sardinia): This interactive park features 1:25 scale models of the island’s landmarks, a planetarium, and an outdoor dinosaur park with life-sized, moving prehistoric creatures.
La Maddalena Archipelago Boat Tour (Sardinia): Charter a boat or hop on a catamaran from Palau to cruise the protected islands. The waters are shallow, completely translucent, and calm. It’s perfect for kids to safely snorkel or jump off the boat into the natural swimming pools.

Things to Do Without Kids

Sunset Cocktails in Positano (Campania): Take a high-speed ferry from Naples to the Amalfi Coast for an evening of coastal views and upscale dining away from the city.
Wine Tasting on Mount Etna (Sicily): Take a day trip to taste high-altitude, volcanic Nerello Mascalese wines.
Explore Lecce’s Baroque Architecture (Puglia): Known as the “Florence of the South,” spend a late night wandering through illuminated limestone cathedrals and boutiques.
Dinner in a Puglian Grotta (Puglia): Book a romantic dinner overlooking the Adriatic Sea inside a naturally carved limestone sea cave at Polignano a Mare.
Sunset Sea Serenade in Cagliari (Sardinia): Rent a private sailboat to cruise around the cliffs of the Sella del Diavolo (Devil’s Saddle) at sundown, pairing a local Vermentino wine tasting with traditional Sardinian charcuterie.
Agriturismo Dining in the Barbagia Interior (Sardinia): Book a dinner at a traditional agriturismo (working farm restaurant) where island dishes are cooked slowly over open fires.

Local Support

Sitly.it: The primary, highly active platform in Italy for finding local university students and babysitters.
Babysits.it: Excellent for sourcing English-speaking or international caregivers, particularly in hubs with international schools like Naples, Bari, and Palermo.
Average Rates: Incredibly budget-friendly compared to northern Europe. Expect to pay €8–€15/hour, with the higher end reserved for native English speakers or specialized baby care.

The Southern Italy Summer Camp List

I’ve found 10 super fun camps for ages 18 months to 14 years old!

🎙️ She nursed a newborn between board meetings

Barbara Mighdoll — Thu, 21 May 2026 15:30:22 GMT

The New Modern Mom Podcast turns two this month, and to celebrate, I’m re-sharing the episodes that stuck with me most as we gear up for our relaunch this summer.

Next up: Divya Gugnani.

Entrepreneur. Investor. 5x CEO. Mom of three, including a newborn at the time of this recording.

Before we hit record, I didn’t know Divya personally. By the time we finished, I wanted to be her best friend.

She’s one of those people who carries an enormous amount without making it look performed. Multiple companies, two preteens, a new baby, a cross-country move, and somehow she shows up with real clarity about what matters and what doesn’t. No hustle glorification. No pretending it’s easy. Just honest systems and a perspective that I keep coming back to.

The thing that stuck with me most: her “no zero days” rule. On the days where a full workout isn’t happening, she does one minute of jumping jacks. That’s it. Progress over perfection, every single day. Simple, but two years later and I think about it constantly.

If you missed this one the first time, add it to your queue this week. And if you’ve already listened, it hits differently the second time around.

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Thanks for listening,

Barbara

Shortlist Vol. 10

Barbara Mighdoll — Mon, 18 May 2026 21:04:32 GMT

If you know me, you know I don’t just buy things, I do deep analysis and then I test them. Especially when it comes to skincare, I’m constantly researching the best ingredients, the most effective formulas, and the products that actually deliver on their promises.

This week I gathered up my latest batch of skincare empties. I’m sharing what works, what doesn’t, and what I’ll be keeping in my routine.

Would I Buy Again?

First Aid Beauty Pads

No - TBH I used these for years without realizing I have sensitive skin and these are not great for sensitive skin. They’re more expensive, but I prefer Elemis Dynamic Resurfacing Pads since they’re gentler and just as effective.

Avene Milk Cleanser

Yes, definitely - Love the texture and super gentle on the skin. I swear by double cleansing, starting with this ending with a foam cleanser.

Nuxe Roll On Body Oil

Yes, the holy grail of body oil - I prefer the roller over the spray, but you’ll go through the roller more quickly.

Caudalie Resveratrol-Lift

Yes - Unfortunately you can't find my preferred liquid version in the US (but you can buy it from UK beauty site here). Luckily the US sells this in a slightly thicker cream version. I stocked up on the liquid one in France because I'm obsessed with the easy no-mess application - I can squeeze it directly onto my face. It’s my go-to morning moisturizer.

Osea Ocean Cleanser

No - I liked this in the morning for the strong eucalyptus scent, but it's too energizing for a nighttime cleanser. Since I prefer to just have one gentle cleanser I can use day and night, this isn’t it.

Osea Ocean Wave Cleansing Oil

No - I’m just not a fan of oil cleansers. But if I was, I’d get this one. It was super effective at removing makeup, lightweight and left my skin feeling hydrated. I prefer the Avene Milk Cleanser or Elemis Pro-Collagen Cleansing Balm instead.

Merit Instant Glow Serum

Big NO - I hate the way it comes out of the bottle... it sprays everywhere, it's super lightweight and, honestly, I don't think it does anything to hydrate. For daily serums, I’m fully convinced a growth factor serum is the best investment to make for your skin, so I’m currently testing out Dr. Diamond’s InstaFacial Collection (it’s two serums in the AM, the same two plus one in the PM).

Caudalie Vinoperfect Serum

Big YES - I'm on my 6th bottle of this. I stock up in Europe because it's significantly cheaper, but it’s worth every penny. Yes it actually lightens dark spots and I've had multiple friends tell me the same

Ursa Major Alpine Rich Cream

Yes - Amazing in winter or if you’re somewhere dry. I love it as my overnight cream.

Tula Beauty Sleep Cream

No - I definitely wouldn’t call this a deeply hydrating overnight cream

Filorga Global-Repair Eyes and Lip Cream

No - no real noticeable effects. Again, I’m all in on growth factor serum now and will report back on Dr. Diamond’s InstaFacial Collection.

For My Bay Area Moms…

I’m hosting a super fun Marvel Avengers–themed morning with Hiya kids vitamins and would love for you + your kids to come!

📅 Sunday, May 31
🕥 11:00 AM – 1:00 PM
📍 MNTSTUDIO Marina (2154 Union St)

Here’s what’s happening:

🧘 Mommy & Me Pilates class
🦸 Make-your-own Marvel Avengers Hiya vitamin bottle (my kids love these!)
⚡️ Decorate your own super-hero cape at our patch bar!
☕ Coffee for moms + snacks for kids

It’s totally free, but spots are limited so RSVP asap:

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Summer Abroad Camp List: The Netherlands + Belgium

Barbara Mighdoll — Thu, 14 May 2026 19:49:40 GMT

If you’re looking for a summer that balances urban efficiency with fairytale charm, the Netherlands and Belgium are your winners.

I of course visited Amsterdam during my study abroad semester, but I also had the opportunity to go back in my mid-twenties for work… and let me tell you I had one of the craziest nights of my life that involved a rave in a warehouse on an island and returning home on the train at 6am 😆 I imagine going back as a family though would feel different in all the right ways.

And I grouped Belgium here, not because the cultures are similar (they are not), but purely because geographically they are very close to each other with major cities less than 2 hours apart by train. This could be a very fun, very easy 2-part urban summer adventure. And fun fact: my grandmother was from Antwerp and I’ve always wanted to visit.

Logistics: Getting There & Staying There

Ease of Getting There:

Amsterdam: Fly into Amsterdam Schiphol (AMS)
Belgium: Fly into Brussels Airport (BRU)
Flights: Both are massive international hubs with direct flights from most major U.S. cities.

Getting Around: Stroller vs. Scooter Realism

The Stroller: The Netherlands is extremely flat, making strollers a dream. In Brussels, you’ll hit more hills and cobblestones.
The Cargo Bike: If you are in Amsterdam, rent a cargo bike. You can throw two kids, their camp bags, and your groceries in the front bucket and zip across the city in 10 minutes.
Is a Car Necessary? Absolutely not. Between the trains, trams, and bikes, a car is actually a liability (especially with €7/hour parking in Amsterdam).

Housing:

Amsterdam Rent: A family-friendly 2-bedroom in areas like Oud-Zuid or De Pijp ranges from $7,400–$12,000/month.
Brussels/Waterloo Rent: More affordable than Amsterdam. You can find high-end 2-3 bedroom apartments in Ixelles or Waterloo for $4,300–$8,000/month.

The “American Reality” Check:

Air Conditioning: Like most of Northern Europe, A/C is rare in homes. July temperatures are usually a comfortable 70°F–75°F, but if a heatwave hits, you’ll be relying on open windows and fans.
Stairs: Historic Dutch and Belgian townhomes are notorious for “staircases from hell.” They are steep, narrow, and winding. If you have a toddler, triple-check the floor level of your rental.

Typical Eating Schedule:

Lunch: 12:00 p.m. – 1:30 p.m. Early compared to most European countries!
Dinner: 6:30 p.m. – 8:00 p.m. These countries follow a more “Northern” schedule, making it easy to keep the kids’ bedtime on track.

The Weather: What to Expect in July

The Temperature: Perfectly mild. Expect daily highs around 70°F–75°F in Amsterdam and 74°F–78°F in Brussels.
The Evening Vibe: You’ll want a light jacket for dinner on the canal. The sun doesn’t fully set until nearly 10:00 p.m., so the “Golden Hour” lasts all evening.

Things to Do With Kids

Canal Boat (Amsterdam): Skip the big tour boats. Rent a small electric boat in Amsterdam, and navigate the quiet back canals yourself.
NEMO Science Museum (Amsterdam): A giant green boat-shaped building where every single thing is meant to be touched.
Vondelpark (Amsterdam): Massive playgrounds, a paddling pool, and outdoor theater. It’s the city’s backyard.
Artis Royal Zoo (Amsterdam): One of the oldest zoos in Europe, located right in the city center with a planetarium and aquarium.
Efteling (Netherlands): An hour from Amsterdam, this is a “fairytale” theme park.
The Atomium (Brussels): A giant iron crystal structure you can go inside. It feels like a retro-futuristic spaceship.
Mini-Europe (Brussels): A park with 1:25 scale models of Europe’s famous monuments. Kids feel like giants.
The Chocolate Museum (Bruges): Watch demonstrations and participate in tastings in one of Belgium’s most beautiful “Venice of the North” cities.
Plopsaland (Belgium): A massive, toddler-friendly theme park perfect for younger children
Pairi Daiza (Belgium): Voted the best zoo in Europe several years running; it’s a massive animal sanctuary and botanical garden

Things to Do Without Kids

The Heineken Experience (Amsterdam): Tour the brand’s historic original brewery, finishing with cold pints at the rooftop bar.
The Rijksmuseum (Amsterdam): Go for “The Night Watch,” stay for the incredible library.
Westerkerk Tower Climb (Amsterdam): Book a private tour to climb the tower for the highest and best views over the Jordaan district.
Beer Tasting in Brussels: Visit Delirium Café or a local brewery like Brussels Beer Project to taste the world’s best Trappist ales.
Antwerp Day Trip: Only 45 minutes from Brussels, Antwerp is the diamond and fashion capital perfect for high-end shopping and dining.

Local Support

Sitly: The most popular app in the Netherlands for finding local sitters.
Charly Cares: A vetted “Babysitting Angel” service in the Netherlands.
Bsit: The primary app used in Belgium (especially Brussels and Antwerp) to find local, community-reviewed sitters.
Average Rates: Expect to pay €12–€18/hour. Rates in Amsterdam and Brussels are at the higher end of that range.

The Netherlands and Belgium Summer Camp List

12 unique summer camps in The Netherlands and Belgium for kids 2-17!

🎙️RERUN: The episode that still lives in my head ft. Jeanelle Teves

Barbara Mighdoll — Wed, 06 May 2026 14:02:41 GMT

The New Modern Mom Podcast turns two this month, and to mark it, I’m re-releasing the episodes that resonated most as we get ready to relaunch in June. Consider this your warm-up.

Up now: Jeanelle Teves.

How the F do you actually do it all?

It’s the question that started this podcast in the first place, and honestly, Jeanelle gave me one of the most grounded, real answers I’ve ever heard.

She’s the Chief Commercial Officer at Bugaboo, and when we recorded this two years ago, she walked me through exactly how she architects her days, her weeks, her support systems, without pretending any of it is effortless… and it’s clear these systems are what led her to successfully launch a professional community, Work Lunch, and become a children’s book author over the past year, while still leading as an executive in her 9 to 5.

This was one of our most listened-to episodes for a reason. I still hear from women who say it changed how they think about their mornings, their planning, their whole approach to showing up.

If you haven’t listened yet, now’s the time. If you have, it’s worth another play.

What you’ll take away:

🌅 A morning routine that actually holds up for working moms
📅 The quarterly + weekly planning system that cuts mental load
🎯 A simple framework for knowing what to actually prioritize
🤝 What a real support system looks like, at home and in community
🔄 Why consistency, not perfection, is always the long game

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Steal my grocery list (+ 10 recipes on rotation)

Barbara Mighdoll — Mon, 04 May 2026 14:03:18 GMT

I love cooking. I really do. On a good week I’m scrolling through my saved Instagram recipes Sunday afternoon, adding new ones onto my weekly meal plan.

But right now I’m in the middle of multiple new studio build-outs, a packed events calendar, planning MNT’s Portugal retreat, prepping to take the whole family abroad for the summer, and getting deliverables to brand partners on time. So that Sunday meal planning session has very little time or mental creativity behind it these days.

What I default to instead: a rotation of recipes I know I’ll always have ingredients for. And on the hardest days, we do bowls: chicken or ground turkey, whatever vegetables we have, rice or quinoa, a sauce from Trader Joe’s. Done.

I always have ingredients on hand because I order Costco delivery every Sunday or Monday morning, the same order, every single week. (I am not spending two hours in Costco and then hauling groceries up two flights of stairs.) Once a month I do a Trader Joe’s run to restock the staples.

The decision fatigue around feeding your family is real, and it’s taking up way more mental energy than you realize. I didn’t know how much until it was just gone. Here’s the full blueprint, steal whatever works.

The Weekly Costco Haul

Same order, every Sunday, automatic. I don’t think about it. I just receive it.

Produce Blueberries, grapes, mango, oranges or mandarins, bananas, strawberries, apples, plums, cantaloupe or melon, tomatoes, avocado, yellow onions, green onions, whole carrots, cucumbers, garlic, cauliflower, broccoli, peppers, spinach

Dairy & Fridge Butter, eggs, egg whites, Greek yogurt, cheese… lots of it (slices, Babybel, string, Pecorino, Manchego), individual hummus cups, individual guacamole cups, frozen mini pizzas

Meat & Seafood One of: shrimp, salmon, or black cod, rotates weekly. Plus: ground turkey, smoked salmon, Amylu breakfast sausages, fish sticks, chicken gyoza

Pantry Marinara sauce, avocado oil spray, seaweed snacks, Everything But The Bagel seasoning, shelled pistachios, organic bone broth, Goodles, organic extra virgin olive oil

The Monthly Trader Joe’s Run

Once a month. One trip. The staples that make everything taste like you tried harder than you did.

Vegan Kale, Cashew, and Basil Pesto (refrigerated)
Butter Lettuce Pack
Vegan Caesar Dressing (refrigerated)
Vegan Dill Dressing (refrigerated)
Greek Chickpeas with Cumin and Parsley (canned)
Grecian Style Eggplant with Tomatoes & Onions (canned)
Brazil Nuts
Bamba
Tahini
Coconut Cream (canned)
Soyaki
Korean Style Yangnyeom Sauce
Thai Style Peanut Dressing
Tri-colored Quinoa
Organic Rice
Shelf-stable Gnocchi
Miso Ginger Broth (cook rice in this!!)

The 10 Recipes We Rotate

No new recipes. No searching. No “what sounds good tonight?” Just: which one is it this week.

Sheet Pan Herb Crusted Salmon + Oven Baked Rice by Food by Maria
One Skillet Greek Chicken and Orzo with Tomatoes, Feta and Tzatziki by Half Baked Harvest
Tomato Basil Soup by Ina Garten
Portobello Romesco Burgers by Dishing out Health
Marry Me Chickpeas by Kale Junkie
Marry Me Italian Soup by Kale Junkie
Thai Peanut Chicken Bowls by Pinch of Yum
Thai Basil Sesame Cashew Chicken with Coconut Rice by Half Baked Harvest
Crispy Roasted Cauliflower with Creamy Pesto Pasta by Half Baked Harvest
Sheet Pan Roasted Lemon Garlic Butter Salmon Feta and Olives by Half Baked Harvest

Two Recipes I Make Almost Weekly

The Perfect Frittata

On Sundays, I love to throw whatever leftover vegetables I have into a frittata to have breakfast prepared for the week. No food-waste and meal-prep all in one? Sign me up.

Ingredients:

3-4 vegetables, cubed
1 tbsp olive oil
1 tbsp dried oregano
1 tbsp dried sage
2 teaspoons minced garlic
10 eggs
½ milk of choice (we use almond)
1 jar drained sun dried tomatoes
Salt and pepper to taste

Directions:

Cut vegetables into small cubes
Preheat oven to 350
Toss vegetables in a bowl with olive oil, dried oregano, dried sage, minced garlic, and salt and pepper.
Add to a parchment lined baking sheet. Roast for 20-30 minutes, flipping halfway through cooking, until golden and slightly crisped.
While vegetables are roasting, whisk egg mixture.
In a separate bowl, mix together eggs and almond milk.
Once combined, add sundried tomatoes and salt and pepper.
Grease a 9x13 baking dish with oil or oil spray
Place roasted vegetables in the baking dish, then pour egg mixture on top in an even layer.
Bake for 20-30 minutes or until the eggs have puffed and it is firm in the center.

“Whatever’s Left” Sheet Pan Gnocchi

At the end of the week I toss any remaining vegetables with chickpeas and gnocchi on a sheet pan for a quick and easy dinner (this works great for lunches throughout the week as well)

Ingredients

3-4 vegetables, chopped (I like eggplant, peppers, onion and tomatoes)
1lb gnocchi
1 can Cumin Chickpeas from Trader Joe’s
2 tbsp olive oil
1 tbsp red wine vinegar
2 tsp oregano
½ cup crumbled feta cheese
½ cup Vegan Pesto from Trader Joe’s
Salt and pepper to taste

Directions:

Preheat oven to 400
Cut vegetables into cubes
Add vegetables, chickpeas, and gnocchi to a parchment lined baking sheet
Add olive oil, vinegar, oregano, and salt and pepper. Toss to combine
Bake for 20-25 minutes or until golden brown
Top with feta and pesto

The best part of this system isn’t the food. It’s what disappears when you have one: the daily low-grade anxiety of what are we going to eat tonight.

That’s bandwidth I’d rather spend on literally anything else.

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Summer Abroad Camp List: Nordic Countries

Barbara Mighdoll — Wed, 29 Apr 2026 14:02:10 GMT

Spending the summer in the Nordic region sounds magical. While most of Europe is sweltering, the North is basking in 20 hours of daylight, cooler temps, and a culture that values hobbies and outdoor living.

A stark contrast to my very poor decision as a 21-year-old study abroad student who went to Stockholm in the middle of February. I saw the inside of bars, museums and spent an entire day in IKEA because it was truly impossible to be outside, even with my 3 jackets on. HA!!

Everyone speaks English perfectly and the “nature-first” approach to parenting is incredibly refreshing (pun intended). It’s the perfect place to base yourself if you want a productive work summer without the heat-induced brain fog of the South.

Logistics: Getting There & Staying There

Ease of Getting There:

Denmark: Fly into Copenhagen (CPH). It is one of the most efficient airports in the world, with a 15-minute train ride directly to the city center.
Norway: Land at Oslo (OSL) or Stavanger (SVG). Both are well-connected to major European hubs like London or Amsterdam.
Sweden: Stockholm Arlanda (ARN) is the main gateway. The Arlanda Express train gets you to the city in 20 minutes.
Finland: Helsinki (HEL) is a major hub for flights coming from the U.S. and Asia.
Flights: Direct flights from the East Coast (NYC, Newark) are common. From the West Coast, you’ll likely have one stop in London, Reykjavik, or Copenhagen

Getting Around: Stroller vs. Scooter Realism

The Stroller: Sidewalks are wide, elevators are everywhere, and buses/trains have dedicated stroller bays.
Kid Scooters: Mandatory. Every Nordic kid owns a scooter. The cities are incredibly flat and paved for wheels. It is the easiest way to get your kid to camp without a car.
Is a Car Necessary? No. In fact, in cities like Copenhagen and Stockholm, a car is a liability with expensive parking and limited traffic zones. The public transit and bike lanes are so elite that you can easily manage camp drop-offs without one.
Copenhagen Cargo Bikes: In Denmark, biking isn’t just a hobby, it’s a lifestyle. I highly recommend renting a cargo bike. You can throw the kids and all their camp gear in the front bucket and navigate the city like a local.

Housing for a 2-bedroom rental:

Denmark: In Østerbro or Hellerup (near the camps) ranges from$5,500–$8,500/month.
Norway: In Bekkestua (Oslo area) or Stavanger, expect to pay $3,500–$5,000/month.
Sweden: Östermalm or Södermalm in Stockholm will run $5,500–$8,500/month.
Finland: Helsinki is slightly more affordable, with nice 2-bedrooms in Töölö or Espoo ranging from $2,800–$4,200/month

The “American Reality” Check:

Air Conditioning: You will almost never find A/C in Nordic homes. The good news? You don’t need it.
Laundry: Washers are standard, but dryers are rare. However, many Nordic apartments come with access to a high-tech “drying room” (torkrum) in the basement that can dry a whole load of laundry in an hour.
Cost of Living: The Nordics are more akin to San Francisco or New York pricing. Do not come here expecting the “everything is so much cheaper” mentality you find in Southern Europe. From groceries to your morning coffee, you are paying premium prices.

The Weather: What to Expect in July

The Temperature: Mild and perfect. Expect highs between 68°F and 75°F. Occasionally it hits 80°F, but it’s rare.
The Evening Vibe: Eternal twilight. It never gets fully dark, and the air stays crisp. You will definitely need a light jacket or a sweater after 8:00 p.m.

The Nordic Food Scene & Typical Schedule

What to Eat:

Smørrebrød (Denmark): Open-faced sandwiches. Kids love the “simple” versions with egg or cucumber; parents can go wild with pickled herring and remoulade 🤪
Köttbullar (Sweden): The classic meatballs with lingonberry jam.
Fresh Berries: In July, the strawberries and cloudberries are at their peak. You’ll find stalls on every corner.
Kanelbullar: Cinnamon or cardamom buns are a daily ritual for Fika (coffee break).

Typical Eating Schedule:

Lunch: 11:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m. They eat early here!
The “Fika”: 3:00 p.m. Coffee and a pastry. It’s a cultural requirement.
Dinner: 6:00 p.m. – 7:30 p.m. Much earlier than Southern Europe, which is great for maintaining kid routines.

Local Support

Sitly: Available in Denmark, Norway, and Finland for local sitters.
Yepstr (Sweden): A popular app in Stockholm for finding local youth to help with childcare or odd jobs.
Average Rates: Expect to pay €18–€25/hour. Childcare is more expensive here, reflecting the high local wages.

The Nordic Summer Camp List

13 unique Nordic summer camps for kids 4-17!

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I’ve been lying to you… I’m actually a brunette

Barbara Mighdoll — Sat, 18 Apr 2026 15:02:22 GMT

This may come as a surprise… but I’m actually a brunette. Like deep, dark brunette.

I like to say I was meant to be a blonde and the universe just made a mistake, which is why it somehow looks extremely natural. Between a very good hairstylist and the fact that my son is very blonde, it’s no wonder this fun fact catches people off guard.

My blonde journey started at 17 with Sun In “highlights” (IYKYK). From there, college and my early twenties were a rotation of not-great dye jobs and questionable highlights. The color wasn’t always good… but through all of it, I somehow managed to keep my hair really strong and healthy.

I’ve tested a lot over the years. Every buzzy product, every “game-changing” tool. And while I still love trying new things, here’s the truth:

The results don’t come from what’s new. They come from what you use consistently.

At this point, my routine is locked. These are the products and tools that have made it through every clean-out, every trip, every attempt to “upgrade.” They just work.

Sharing my exact routine and non-negotiables I’ve had for 10+ years.

Dyson Hair Dryer there really is no other blow dryer that compares
Hot Tools 1” Curling Iron The GOAT, I have had mine for literally 15 years and it’s still going!
Hair Brush I use this to blow dry
Kiehl’s Amino Acid Shampoo and Kiehl’s Amino Acid Conditioner for everyday use
Aveda Blue Malva Shampoo I’ve tried several purple shampoos and this is the best one on the market for getting rid of brassiness for color-treated or highlighted hair
Shea Moisture Hair Mask $4 for hair that feels like you went to a head spa
Redken Leave-in Spray for after the shower
Living Proof Dry Shampoo this actually cleans your hair without any residue
Living Proof Hair Spray I love that it’s not too heavy
DryBar Triple Finishing Spray to add some texture and volume
Overnight Hair Ties this is super important - I sleep with my hair in a super high ponytail, never down!
Roz Hair Oil It gives shine, heat protection, and moisture *the one new addition to my routine

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Ultra-specific gifts for Mother’s Day

Barbara Mighdoll — Fri, 17 Apr 2026 14:02:56 GMT

The real gift I want on Mother’s Day? A solo night away or a weekend with friends.

Is that always realistic? No.
What is realistic is making it very easy for your partner to get it right.

So here’s the plan: send a clear signal.

And for your mom/MIL/collectively known to your kids as “grandmas,” I pulled together a one-stop list so you’re not scrambling there either.

Because the last thing you need is another thing to manage… or pretending to love a gift that missed.

When Mother’s Day comes around, I’m not hoping for a surprise. I’m sharing the list.

Consider this your permission to do the same.
Forward it or leave it open as a not-so-subtle hint.

It makes everything easier for everyone.

For the Modern Mom

These are items I already own and love and what’s on my list for this year.

DORSEY Kate Riviere Necklace I wear this necklace all the time
Cuyana Tall Easy Tote in Chili Just got this for my birthday and I LOVE this red color
Aurem St. Tropez Sunglasses I’ve been eyeing these sunglasses for Spain this summer
Solly Pointelle Pj’s These look soo cozy and we know the fabric is going to be 🤌
True Botanicals Eye Masks obsessed with these
Cumulus Cold Brew Machine I got this at the end of last year

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For Grandma

For the grandmas who have “everything.”

Cuyana Travel Case My go-to gift for most holidays
Wine and Champagne Chiller, Bread Basket with Warmer or Family Recipe Book for the grandma who loves to cook
Mahjong Mat and new Mahjong Tiles My mom and mother-in-law both play mahjong weekly. This is a beautiful set!
Foldable Gardening Seat with Tools and Garden Apron for the gardener
U Beauty Neck + Décolleté Concentrate I’ve been using this for the past 2 months and the results are real!

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Customizable Gifts

For the mom and grandmas who love a sentimental one-of-a-kind gift.

Customizable Sweatshirts I’ve been gifted these every year with the kids’ nicknames on them instead of mini and love!
Customizable Calendar Cute and practical
Maya Brenner Initial Necklace This is so dainty. Perfect for the mom who likes simple jewelry
Camp Snap Digital Video Camera Great for those who want to capture memories without their phone
Customized Photo Book Just got this and can’t wait to use it on our next family vacation

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Summer Abroad Camp List: Provence-Alpes-Côte d'Azur

Barbara Mighdoll — Fri, 10 Apr 2026 18:43:08 GMT

Provence is the ultimate dream when you imagine a summer in France. Think lavender fields, rosé at lunch, and those golden-hued villages.

You can base yourself in Marseille for a high-energy, urban Mediterranean experience with incredible food and artsy vibes, or you can retreat to the hills near Aix-en-Provence for that quintessential, slow-paced Provencal life.

We spent a long weekend in Aix this past summer, and TBH I loved it more than Nice! It’s culturally-rich, lively, and has everything you need to live a vibrant summer abroad. It’s also just 45 minutes away from Cassis, which is one of the most stunning seaside towns I’ve ever been to.

Logistics: Getting There & Staying There

Ease of Getting There:

Major Airport: Land at Marseille Provence Airport (MRS).
Flights: There are seasonal direct flights from the East Coast, but most travelers connect through Paris (CDG) or London. Expect 1–2 stops from the West Coast.
The Commute: The airport is about 25 minutes from Marseille and 30 minutes from Aix-en-Provence.

Getting Around: Stroller vs. Scooter Realism

The Stroller: In Aix, the cobblestones are relatively smooth, but in Marseille’s older districts like Le Panier, there are constant stairs.
Kid Scooters: Marseille’s Vieux Port (Old Port) and the Corniche are flat, paved, and perfect for scooters.
The Car: Essential for Provence. Be prepared for very tight parking in city centers, look for “Parking Public” and be ready to pay for the convenience.

Housing:

Marseille Housing: A 2-bedroom apartment in a family-friendly area like the 7th Arrondissement ranges from $3,000–$5,500/month in July.
Aix-en-Provence Housing: For a more polished, walkable experience, focus on the streets surrounding Cours Mirabeau or the quieter Mazarin district. With a car, you can also explore the more rural houses for more space. Expect to pay between $3,500–$5,500/month in July.
Pro tip: I highly recommend prioritizing a rental with a pool. The heat in July is intense, and having an immediate way for the kids to cool off in the afternoons will keep everyone happy.

The “American Reality” Check:

Air Conditioning: Provence gets hot. You must verify that your rental has A/C, especially in Marseille where the stone buildings trap the heat.
Sunday Closures: Except for a few tourist-heavy spots, Sunday is a ghost town for retail. Stock up on Saturday, or join the locals at the Sunday morning flower and food markets.
Laundry: Standard European setup of a washer in the kitchen, but no dryer.

The Weather: What to Expect in July

The Temperature: Dry and hot. Expect highs between 85°F and 92°F.
The Evening Vibe: Perfection. The temperature drops just enough to be comfortable, and the “golden hour” in Provence lasts forever.

The Provence-Alpes-Côte d’Azur Food Scene & Typical Schedule

What to Eat:

Navettes: Orange blossom-scented biscuits from Marseille. They are hard and boat-shaped; kids love dipping them in milk.
Panisse: Chickpea flour fries. They are a Marseille staple and the ultimate kid-approved savory snack.
Ratatouille: The classic summer stew. It’s the best way to get kids to eat Mediterranean produce.
Rosé & Pastis: For the parents, a chilled glass of Provence Rosé or a cloud of water-diluted Pastis at 6:00 p.m. is the local law.

Typical Eating Schedule:

Lunch: 12:30 p.m. – 2:00 p.m. Many restaurants stop serving at 2:00 sharp.
The “Goûter”: 4:30 p.m. The mandatory afternoon snack (usually a pain au chocolat or fruit).
Dinner: 8:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m. It’s a bit earlier than some other European countries but still a late affair compared to the U.S.

Things to Do With Kids

The Calanques by Boat: Rent a private boat from the Vieux Port in Marseille to swim in the hidden turquoise coves of Sormiou or Morgiou.
Le Petit Train: Every French city has one, but the Marseille version that climbs up to Notre-Dame de la Garde is actually a thrill with great views.
Château d’If: Take the ferry to see the island fortress where the Count of Monte Cristo was “imprisoned.”
The Haribo Museum: Located in Uzès (about an hour away), it’s a sugar-coated rite of passage for every kid in the region.
The Luberon Villages: Spend a day hopping between Gordes and Roussillon. Roussillon has the “Ochre Trail,” which is basically a giant orange sand-box for kids to hike through.
Aqualand St Cyr Sur Mer: A classic, massive water park about 30 minutes from Marseille for when the kids need a “non-culture” day.
Day Trip to Cassis: This is one of the most stunning Mediterranean towns I’ve ever been to. Book a boat tour from the harbor to see the turquoise inlets, or if you have older kids, take the hike to a secluded beach in the Calanques for a truly world-class experience.

Things to Do Without Kids

Rosé Tasting in Cassis: The white and rosé wines here are elite. Visit Clos Sainte Magdeleine for a tasting right on the edge of the sea.
Shopping in Aix: The boutiques in the old town are incredible.
Dinner at Le Vallon des Auffes: A tiny, hidden fishing port in Marseille with world-class seafood and a very romantic vibe.
The Carrières des Lumières: An immersive art show projected onto the walls of a giant limestone quarry in Les Baux-de-Provence.
Evening at a Rooftop Bar: Head to Les Réformés or La Caravelle in Marseille for cocktails overlooking the city.

Local Support

Sitly.fr: Very popular in France for finding local students and sitters.
Babysits.fr: Great for finding English-speaking caregivers in the more international hubs like Aix.
Average Rates: Expect to pay €12–€18/hour.

The Provence-Alpes-Côte d’Azur Summer Camp List

I’ve found 10 super fun camps for ages 2.5 to 17!

Shortlist vol. 7

Barbara Mighdoll — Sun, 05 Apr 2026 14:15:44 GMT

I’ll let you in on a secret: I am not a big book reader, but I am perpetually listening to a podcast. When you’re juggling all the things, you have to make your time work harder for you. That’s why I rely on podcasts as my primary resource for inspiration and advice. I’m a big believer in habit stacking, so they turn my commute, my morning routine, and even cleaning the kitchen into a time for growth and learning.

I have a roster of favorite shows that are always automatically downloaded. It completely removes any analysis paralysis so I don’t have to scroll or decide what to listen to in the moment.

I’ve curated a list of the exact podcasts I’m subscribed to that cover everything from career tips, business news and parenting hacks to interesting fun facts and life design strategies. So, grab your headphones and let’s do this.

The Newsworthy This is the first podcast I listen to in the morning. I limit my daily news for my own sanity and I love this unbiased 15-minute roundup.
Aspire with Emma Grede I always feel so inspired after listening to Emma and the powerhouse guests she brings on.
The Mel Robbins Podcast Mel tells you exactly what you need to hear to stop overthinking and start taking action at work and home.
The New Modern Mom Podcast I host C-level execs, VPs and entrepreneurs to answer the question we all are thinking: how the F are they doing it all. I also have a Toolkit Series where I share my own systems for optimizing everything from packing and travel to business operations and home life.
The Best One Yet This is the second podcast I listen to daily. In 15 mins it breaks down the three biggest business stories with a lot of energy and good laughs. It’s a light-hearted way to take in what can typically feel dry.
Social Currency I love Sammi’s unique take on the intersection of culture and business, specifically the angle on consumer trends.
Hot Smart Rich I appreciate Maggie’s unfiltered take on building wealth and power.
Superwomen with Rebecca Minkoff A great lineup of entrepreneurs.
The Jasmine Star Show Jasmine breaks down so many business challenges into “do-this-today” steps that actually work.
HERself I see a lot of parallels on the topics here as my podcast… and love hearing more perspectives from women on their approach to motherhood.
The Liz Moody Podcast This is all about science-backed ways to live a healthy life.
Conversations with Cam I love how honest and open Cam is about every aspect of her life, but especially motherhood.
Mighty as a Mother This podcast is a great mix of women in the trenches and experts chatting through topics that are on every working mom’s mind. And I happen to be a guest last summer! Listen to my episode here.
The Economics of Everyday Things These bite-sized episodes are perfect for those short commutes. And guaranteed to give you something fun to drop at your next networking event or dinner party.
Game Changers with Molly Fletcher Guests are a combination of doctors, professors and athletes on topics guaranteed to inspire you to grow, take a chance, and live better.
Brilliant Balance I think Cherylanne, the host, and I would be best friends. She talks a lot about sustainable success and designing your next chapter.
The Breadwinners A newer podcast that brings on experts as well as ambitious women to talk honestly about the evolution of women at work and home.
A Day in Her Life I find it fascinating (and validating) to hear the authentic, unpolished routines of other ambitious women and how they actually structure their days.
The Indicator from Planet Money Economics was one of my least favorite subjects, but I appreciate how simplified the hosts make the topics and I feel like I learned something in just 10 mins

What podcast is on your daily rotation? Drop in in the comments so I can add to my list.

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Summer Abroad Camp List: Croatia

Barbara Mighdoll — Fri, 27 Mar 2026 12:04:09 GMT

Croatia feels equal parts exotic, dreamy and culturally rich. I’ve done my fair share of research on this bucket list country I’ve never been to. It perfectly balances the rugged, ancient history of the Mediterranean with some of the clearest turquoise water you’ve ever seen.

If you’ve been looking for a destination that feels safe, soulful, and just the right amount of adventurous, Croatia is calling.

Logistics: Getting There & Staying There

Ease of Getting There:

Major Airports: Land in Zagreb (ZAG) for the city/STEM camps, Split (SPU) for the islands/Makarska, or Pula (PUY) for Istria.
Flights: There are seasonal direct flights from the U.S. (mostly NYC to Dubrovnik), but most travelers connect through London, Frankfurt, or Munich. Expect 1–2 stops from the West Coast.
The Commute: Zagreb’s airport is 25 minutes from the center. Split’s airport is about 40 minutes from the ferry port.

Getting Around: Stroller vs. Scooter Realism

The Stroller: In the old stone towns (Split/Hvar), strollers are tough.
Kid Scooters: Great for the flat waterfront rivas in Porec or Rabac, but keep them away from the steep, stepped alleys of the old towns.
The Ferry: Ferries are the “buses” of the coast. Fast catamarans are great for day trips.

Housing:

A 2-bedroom apartment in a family-friendly area like Zagreb’s Lower Town or the residential parts of Pula ranges from $2,500–$4,500/month in July.
Island rentals in Hvar or Brač can spike higher.

The “American Reality” Check:

Air Conditioning: Essential in July. Temperatures hit the 90s regularly. Always verify your rental has “Klima” (A/C) in the bedrooms, not just the main room.
The “Fijaka”: This is the Dalmatian state of mind, a “sweetness of doing nothing.” Service might be slow, and shops might close mid-day. Don’t fight it; join it.
Laundry: Dryers are rare. Clothes are dried on lines outside. With the salt air and sun, your swimsuits will be dry in 20 minutes.

The Weather: What to Expect in July

The Temperature: Hot and sunny. Expect daytime highs of 88°F–95°F. The Adriatic Sea is the perfect 75°F–78°F refreshing but easy to stay in for hours.
The Evening Vibe: Balmy and social. The humidity is lower than in the U.S. East Coast, so as soon as the sun drops, the air feels incredible.

The Croatia Food Scene & Typical Schedule

What to Eat:

Peka: Meat or octopus slow-cooked under a bell-shaped lid. It’s the ultimate “welcome to Croatia” meal.
Ćevapi: Small grilled meat sausages in flatbread. It’s the universal kid-favorite “fast food” that is actually high quality.
Black Risotto (Crni Rižot): Made with cuttlefish ink. It turns everyone’s teeth black, which kids find hilarious and delicious.
Wine & Spirits: For parents, try the Pošip (crisp white) or Plavac Mali (bold red). If you’re brave, a morning Rakija with a local is a rite of passage

Typical Eating Schedule:

Lunch: 1:00 p.m. – 2:30 p.m. Usually the biggest meal.
The Ice Cream Bridge: 5:00 p.m. Sladoled (ice cream) is a daily requirement.
Dinner: 8:30 p.m. – 10:00 p.m. The coast stays vibrant very late into the night.

Things to Do With Kids

Zrmanja River Kayaking: Clear, fresh water and gentle rapids, perfect for a family adventure away from the salt.
Aquapark Istralandia: One of the best water parks in Europe, located in Istria.
Island Hopping to Vis: Visit the Blue Cave and the Stiniva Cove for a “James Bond” style family day.
Zagreb’s Museum of Illusions: A total hit for the 6-12 age bracket on a hot city afternoon.
Fratarski Island: Take the local boat from Pula for a “no-tech” day of jumping off piers and exploring pine forests.
Truffle Hunting in Istria: Head to the village of Motovun for a guided forest walk where kids can follow trained dogs to sniff out “black gold.”
Krka National Park: Unlike Plitvice, you can actually swim near the base of certain waterfalls here, and the wooden boardwalks make for an easy “jungle” hike.
Zadar Sea Organ & Sun Salutation: Let the kids run across the giant solar-powered light disc at sunset while the waves “play” music through the stone steps.

Things to Do Without Kids

Hvar Wine Tasting: Head to the interior of the island (Stari Grad Plain) to taste ancient grape varieties in a UNESCO vineyard.
The Walls of Ston: Hike the “European Great Wall” and reward yourself with fresh oysters from the bay below.
Private Boat to the Pakleni Islands: Escape the Hvar crowds for a quiet bay and a long, rosé-filled lunch at a hidden beach club.
Oyster Farm Tour in Mali Ston: Take a small wooden boat out to the floating platforms to learn about the oyster industry and eat them fresh with local lemon.
Paklenica National Park Hiking: For the active parents, this is the rock-climbing and hiking mecca of Croatia, offering dramatic limestone gorges and Alpine silence.
Istria Wine & Cycle Tour: Rent e-bikes and pedal through the vineyards of the “Tuscany of Croatia,” stopping for Malvazija tastings along the way.
Pelješac Peninsula Exploration: Drive this rugged strip of land for some of Croatia’s boldest red wines (Dingač) and incredibly secluded, quiet pebble coves.

Local Support

Sitly.hr: The most reliable way to find local babysitters and students looking for summer work.
Sittercity (International): Often used by ex-pat families in Zagreb.
Average Rates: Expect to pay €12–€18/hour for a bilingual, vetted sitter.

The Croatia Summer Camp List

I’ve found 9 super fun camps for ages 3 to 13!

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36 Lessons in 36 Years

Barbara Mighdoll — Sun, 22 Mar 2026 13:55:36 GMT

Today is my 36th birthday, and to celebrate, I decided to do a series on Instagram called 36 Lessons in 36 Days. Cute idea, right? Except somewhere along the way, this little birthday experiment also became a personal reminder that I very much still need my own advice.

Because in a funny way this series ended up reinforcing so many of the beliefs I talk about all the time: take action before you feel fully ready, stop waiting to see the whole staircase before taking the next step, and please, I mean please, let go of perfection. Especially the arbitrary deadlines you create, assign deep meaning to, and then use to pressure yourself unnecessarily.

It also reminded me how much I’ve actually learned over 36 years. Some lessons came from major life seasons that changed me deeply. Others came from the smaller shifts, habits, and perspective changes that have helped me live a better, fuller life.

Also, creating and editing reels 36 days in a row? Humbling… even with the support of my social media manager who is an editor extraordinaire. So no, I did not finish all 36 by today, my actual birthday. But I’m weirdly not mad about it. It feels like part of the lesson too.

Build leverage, not loyalty.
Time is your most valuable resource. Start treating it like the asset it is.
If you want to be in the room, pull up your own chair.
Not doing it all is the badge of honor to strive for.
Freedom isn’t given. It’s engineered.
You don’t have to wait for your body to force the boundary. You can start it now.
Prioritize your whole self, not just your job.
Speed is a strategy. Trust is a process. … and omg I just realized I never pressed publish on this one!! Will be circling back.
If you are building something intentional, you should not be for everyone. And you cannot take it personally when you’re not.
Lean into the discomfort. Growth rarely feels comfortable…until it does.
Manifestation is confidence said out loud.
Stop. Breathe. Be.
Stop playing it safe.
Don’t do it perfectly, do it consistently.
Crawl. Walk. Run. Build the minimum viable version and start.
Curiosity will take you further than credentials ever will.
Action creates clarity.
Fake it till you make it.
If it matters, put it on your calendar.
Mornings set the tone.
Slowing down is strategic.
Big things are built in seasons. Honor the one you’re in.
Leverage your strengths daily.
Delegate or drown.
“Mom” is part of you, not all of you.
Quality will always matter more than quantity in friendships.
Marriage is a team sport.
Comparison keeps you consuming when you should be creating.
Joy must be protected, not postponed.
Master the reframe.
You are allowed to redefine success.
Closing the door that no longer serves you reveals doors you couldn’t see before.
The DM you’re afraid to send could change your life.
Be delusional. Dream bigger than feels reasonable.
Know your why and let it guide you.
Action is your North Star.

So I’ll be finishing out my birthday month strong, sharing the rest as I go. Progress over pressure. Consistency over perfection. Joy over self-imposed deadlines.

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My favorite things of the year

Bags
- Cuyana Tote in Mocha have in multiple colors and in the Tall version
- Cuyana Dia Bag
- Clare V. Grande Woven Leather Belt Bag also have in multiple colors
Accessories
- Aurem Black and Gold Belt the best belt brand hands down
- Dorsey Riviere Diamond Necklace I get so many compliments
Makeup
- Jones Road Beauty Miracle Balm in Pinky Bronze
- Jones Road Beauty Mascara thickening and lengthening
- Laura Mercier Real Flawless Weightless Perfecting Serum Concealer I’ve tried so many concealers, this one stays and doesn’t cake
- EADEM Le Chouchou Exfoliating + Softening Peptide Lip Balm
Skincare
- Caudalie Vinoperfect Serum trust me, and the dozen friends of mine who use it, it works
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- Nuxe Dry Oil
- 5 Sens Burn for You Perfume use code NEWMODERNMOM15 for 15% off
Shoes
- Cole Haan GrandPro Tennis 2.0 Sneaker I’ve tried all the “trendy” casual sneakers, these are my winners by far for five years
- A.EMERY Sandals this brand is hands down my favorite sandals
- Steve Madden Leni Flats have in multiple colors
Clothing
- POSSE Alice Linen Mini Dress my favorite summertime dress
- Pistola Wes High Rise Barrel Jeans
- Donnie Simple Linen Pant
- Madewell The Darted Barrel-Leg Jean have in multiple colors
- Lululemon Align Pants tried and true against all others
Routine Staples
- Omnilux Redlight Therapy Mask habit stack it with stretching before bed
- Incline Walking Pad the incline is a real game-changer for benefits
- STAKT Mat
- The Sculpt Society use code NMM25 for 25% off first 2 months
- Owala Free Sip Water Bottle
- Cumulus Cold Brew Makeruse code NMM100 for $100 off

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Summer Abroad Camp List: Northern Italy Edition

Barbara Mighdoll — Sat, 14 Mar 2026 14:02:33 GMT

Italy is high on my list for an extended summer in Europe, mostly because there is so much variety. But the reality of a Mediterranean summer is that the heat can be intense, especially in the south. As dreamy as Southern Italy sounds, hundred degree afternoons can make it hard to actually enjoy the beaches and piazzas.

That is what makes Northern Italy feel so special. From the Dolomites to Lake Como to Milan, it offers a more livable summer with cooler temperatures and just as much charm.

The Dolomites are still at the very top of my personal list for living abroad in the summer. We tried to make it happen last year, but finding legitimate day camps for the kids and good housing options was surprisingly hard. That experience is a big part of why I started creating these guides and co-created Roam Collective, to make these kinds of stays feel more possible for families like ours.

This list is for anyone dreaming of an Italian summer that feels beautiful, inspiring, and actually doable with kids.

Logistics: Getting There & Staying There

Ease of Getting There:

Major Airports: Land in Milan Malpensa (MXP) for the lakes/Dolomites, or Venice Marco Polo (VCE) for the eastern region.
Flights: Several major U.S. cities offer seasonal non-stop flights to Milan and Venice, mostly from the East Coast. If you’re flying from the West Coast (Los Angeles, San Francisco, etc.), expect 1-2 stops.
The Commute: Reaching the camp hubs varies. Milan is a 50-minute train from Malpensa. Padua and Venice camps are within 30-45 minutes of the VCE airport. For the Dolomites, expect a 2.5-hour drive from Venice or Milan.

Getting Around: Stroller vs. Scooter Realism

The Stroller: In cities like Milan or Padua, a standard stroller is fine. In Venice, strollers are a nightmare due to the endless bridges; baby-wearing is your only sane option.
Kid Scooters: Great for the flat parks of Milan or the lakeside promenades of Garda. Not recommended for the steep mountain villages of the Dolomites.
The Train: Italy’s Frecciarossa (high-speed train) is the best way to move between Milan, Bologna, and Venice. It’s clean, fast, and very family-friendly.

Cost of Living & Rentals:

Housing: A 2-bedroom apartment in a family-friendly area like Brera in Milan or near the parks in Padua ranges from $3,200–$5,500/month in July. Lakeside villas and Dolomite chalets can skew much, much higher.
A Note on Venice Housing: Finding long-term stays on the island is a unique challenge; expect to pay a premium ($4,500–$7,000+) for a 2-bedroom. For better value and easier logistics, many families look at Giudecca (quieter/local) or Lido (beach access and actual space for kids to run).

The “American Reality” Check:

Air Conditioning: More common in Milan and Genoa, but often non-existent in mountain chalets. Usually, the mountain air is enough, but always verify “Aria Condizionata” if you’re heat-sensitive.
The Riposo: Shops and many restaurants close between 12:30 p.m. and 3:30 p.m. It is the mandatory Italian nap time.
Laundry: Standalone dryers are very rare. You’ll be using the “stendino” (drying rack). In the dry mountain air, things dry fast!

The Weather: What to Expect in July

The Temperature: In the cities and plains (Milan, Padua, Bologna), expect highs between 85°F and 90°F with higher humidity than the coast. In the Dolomites and Lake regions, the daytime is a perfect 75°F–80°F, though the mountain sun is incredibly intense.
The Evening Vibe: City nights stay warm. In the mountains, the temperature drops quickly after sunset to the 50s or 60s.

The Northern Italy Food Scene & Typical Schedule

What to Eat:

Risotto & Polenta: Northern Italy swaps heavy tomato sauces for creamy rice and cornmeal. Kids love the “simple” butter and parmesan versions, while parents can dive into the rich saffron-infused Risotto alla Milanese or mountain Polenta topped with melted fontina cheese.
Cotoletta alla Milanese: The ultimate kid-friendly staple. It’s a thin, breaded, and pan-fried veal or chicken cutlet, essentially the world’s most elevated chicken finger.
Pesto Genovese & Fresh Pasta: In the Northwest (Liguria), the pesto is bright, fresh, and hand-crushed. Pair it with trofie or trenette pasta; it’s a vibrant, healthy, and high-energy meal that kids actually get excited to eat.
Speck & Mountain Cheeses: From the Dolomites down to the lakes, the charcuterie boards feature smoky Speck (cured ham) and mild Asiago or Taleggio cheeses. These are perfect for a “grazing” lunch during a hike or a day on the boat.

Typical Eating Schedule:

Lunch: 12:30 p.m. – 2:00 p.m.
Aperitivo: 6:30 p.m. – 8:00 p.m. (The ultimate Northern Italian ritual; many bars offer a buffet of snacks with your drink).
Dinner: 8:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m. Northern Italians tend to dine slightly earlier than the south, but 8:30 p.m. is the “sweet spot” for a lively atmosphere.

Things to Do With Kids

Dolomites: Take the cable car up to Alpe di Siusi. It’s the highest alpine meadow in Europe and basically a giant, safe playground with cows and easy hiking trails.
Lake Garda: Visit Gardaland. It’s Italy’s version of Disneyland and located right on the lake.
Milan: The MUBA (Children’s Museum) in the Rotonda della Besana is an incredible, interactive space for younger kids.
Genoa: The Aquarium of Genoa is the largest in Europe and located in the historic old port.
Lake Garda Ferries: Skip the car for a day and hop on the public ferries; kids love the boat ride between Sirmione and Riva del Garda.
The Children’s Museum of Verona: A high-tech, sensory-driven space that is perfect for a rainy day.
Dolomite “Fun Bobs”: Summer toboggan runs (like the one in San Candido) that let you slide down the mountain on a rail (perfect for older kids)
Venice Glass Blowing: Take a private boat to Murano for a kid-friendly demonstration of glass sculpting.

Things to Do Without Kids

Wine Tours: Head to the Valpolicella region near Verona for Amarone tastings or the Franciacorta region for Italy’s answer to Champagne.
Bologna Food Tour: Take a deep dive into the “Fat City” to see where Parmigiano Reggiano and traditional Balsamic Vinegar are produced.
QC Terme San Pellegrino: A stunning, high-end thermal spa in the mountains for a complete parent reset.
Genoa’s “Palazzi dei Rolli”: Tour the UNESCO-listed Renaissance palaces that were once used to host royalty.
Lake Garda Wine Tasting: Visit the vineyards of Lugana for crisp, elegant whites overlooking the southern shore.
Milan Rooftop Aperitivo: Head to a rooftop for a sunset drink feet away from the cathedral spires.

Local Support

Le Cicogne: The most widely used app across Italy for finding local babysitters and nannies. It’s very user-friendly and allows you to filter for English-speaking caregivers.
Nanny & Butler: A high-end, bespoke agency specializing in professional, bilingual childcare and holiday nannies. This is the go-to if you are looking for a more formal or full-time support system for your stay.
Average Rates: Expect to pay €12–€20/hour for a quality sitter. Rates lean toward the higher end in major hubs like Milan or exclusive lake areas like Como.

The Northern Italy Summer Camp List

I’ve curated 11 camps perfect for ages 3 to 16 for you to explore in Northern Italy.

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Shortlist vol. 6

Barbara Mighdoll — Wed, 11 Mar 2026 21:32:01 GMT

I used to think people who took a full lineup of supplements every day were hypochondriacs.

A multivitamin? Sure. But a whole countertop of powders, capsules, tinctures, the whole thing? I did not get it.

And now here I am, with a morning, midday, and evening lineup.

To be fair, I did not get here because I suddenly became a supplement person. It was much more gradual than that. After my autoimmune diagnosis, two pregnancies, and just getting way more in tune with my body, I started noticing when things felt off. My energy, brain fog, bloating, all of it. Then after an annual exam, I noticed some thyroid markers were flagged and did not love how casually that was brushed aside.

For context, I’ve been on thyroid medication since I was 18 and I have Hashimoto’s, so this is not a brand new issue for me. That moment pushed me to look into functional medicine, which I liked because it seemed much more focused on asking why something is happening, not just whether your labs are technically still in range.

It was expensive.

That is what led me to Parsley Health, which at the time felt like a much more accessible entry point (this link gets you $150 off). I’m not currently a member anymore because prices increased dramatically last year, and I got to a place where I felt comfortable sticking with my own plan for a while, but it was a really helpful starting point for me.

Before I get into what I take, quick disclaimer so nobody gets carried away: I am not a doctor, I am not a medical expert, and I could never be in the medical field because blood terrifies me! This is not medical advice. This is just a peek behind the curtain at what I personally take and why. Everyone’s body is different, and this is the kind of thing that should be tailored to your own labs, symptoms, medications, and health history.

So, here’s what’s currently in my routine. Worth noting too… I hate swallowing pills, so I select liquid and powder forms purposefully.

Morning

1. LMNT Electrolytes
This was one of the fastest wins for me. I get lightheaded really easily when I stand up too fast, and adding electrolytes in the morning made a noticeable difference almost immediately.

2. Perelel Synbiotic Greens Powder
I drink this while I brew my morning coffee, after my electrolytes. It helps me check the hydration box again, which I really do struggle with throughout the day, while also giving me fiber, probiotics, and antioxidants. And maybe most importantly, it actually tastes good, which cannot be said for most greens powders.

3. Perelel Triple-Support Protein
The vanilla flavor can be mixed with straight water on days when I truly have 30 seconds to get myself breakfast while running out the door, and yes, it actually tastes good plain. But it also mixes well into a smoothie, yogurt, or even matcha. The formula itself is obviously packed with protein, but also has fiber and creatine.

Midday

4. Cymbiotika B12+B6
This is one I actually feel. Less brain fog, better energy, more clarity. And this formula, importantly for me, is methylated.

I only went down the methylation rabbit hole because my functional medicine doctor strongly encouraged me to check whether I had the MTHFR gene variant. I do, which is why I started paying much closer attention to the forms of B vitamins I was taking, especially B12, B6, and folate.

Methylation is basically one of the body’s behind-the-scenes processes that helps with things like using folate, supporting DNA production, and regulating all kinds of important chemical reactions. So if your body is not processing certain forms of these vitamins as efficiently, the form you take can matter. What I learned is that a lot of B-complex supplements do not actually contain all three, B12, B6, and folate, in methylated forms, which was something I had never known to look for before.

It was one of those very niche, very “oh wow I did not know that” discoveries that ended up changing what I bought.

5. Cymbiotika Liposomal Glutathione
I learned about glutathione for the first time during our MNT Mill Valley opening, when one of our partners was offering it as an injection. It took me basically every day that week to finally pronounce it correctly, which still makes me laugh. But the quick version is that it is considered a powerful detoxifying antioxidant and is often talked about for immune support, skin brightening, and liver support. Once I learned more about it, it became part of my routine.

6. Thorne Vitamin D + K12
Vitamin D is one of those foundational ones that feels especially important for women in their mid-thirties and beyond, especially when it comes to bone density. It is also a big one if you have autoimmune conditions. From what I’ve learned, having your vitamin D in a really solid range can matter for immune system regulation, fatigue, and overall disease activity, which is why this one stays in my lineup.

Evening

7. Doctor’s Best Zinc-L-Carnosine Complex
I added this to help soothe and repair the GI lining, especially when I was focused on reducing bloating and supporting gut healing. It is also often talked about for easing things like heartburn and symptoms associated with leaky gut.

8. L-Glutamine Free-Form Powder
This is another gut-support one for me. It is often used to help strengthen the intestinal lining, support immune function, and help with blood sugar regulation, which is why it became part of my plan.

9. Calm Natural
Very glamorous description here: this helps keep things regular. Enough said.

10. Perelel Sleep Support
This is how I round things out at night. I take it to promote relaxation, take the edge off anxiety, and support better quality sleep.

That’s the current lineup. Not tiny, I know. And not taken perfectly, but I try.

And to be clear, I am not sharing this because I think everyone needs a 10-step supplement routine. I’m sharing it because functional medicine has been such a hot topic lately, and this is one of those areas where I’ve learned so much simply by getting curious and asking better questions.

Anyway, that’s the peek behind the curtain.

A former supplement skeptic turned person-with-a-lineup.

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Lessons from 5 Years with 6 Au Pairs

Barbara Mighdoll — Fri, 06 Mar 2026 21:33:17 GMT

For the last five years, hosting au pairs has been the single most transformative system we’ve built for our family. It’s the reason I’ve been able to scale businesses, navigate a high-stakes career pivot, travel with our kids, and manage an autoimmune condition. We’ve loved our au pairs, are so grateful for their support, and still have relationships with all of them today.

We’re currently on our sixth au pair in five years, and yes, I’ll explain why. After living this way for half a decade, I’ve realized this is not just childcare. It’s a partnership that requires real structure, clear expectations, and its own set of operating procedures.

In the beginning, I had to figure it out as I went. I made mistakes in interviewing. I wasn’t clear enough about expectations. And I learned the hard way that “common sense” is not a management strategy.

To clarify, au pairs can stay with your family for up to two years. So why have we had six?

The short answer is a series of unexpected events, followed by urgency to fill childcare gaps, which created a much less linear path than I ever anticipated.

Here’s how it unfolded:

Fall 2019: We matched with our first au pair from France while I was pregnant with Caden.
Spring 2020: COVID hit, and Europeans were no longer allowed to travel to the U.S. We pieced together childcare with part-time nannies and family support for about a year.
Spring 2021: Our French au pair still couldn’t come to the U.S., so in a moment of desperation, we matched with an au pair from Mexico who was already in the Bay Area and in rematch. We loved her, but she had an unexpected reason she needed to return home just a couple of months later. She’s since traveled with us on vacation in Mexico, and even flew back for a month to help with the kids when we were in between au pairs.
Fall 2021: We urgently rematched with another au pair from Colombia who was already in the U.S. and had six months left in her term. Now she is a nanny for another family locally, and we love running into her at the park and on walks! She still babysits for us.
Spring 2022: Our original French au pair was finally able to come to the U.S.
Spring 2023: She decided to return home for school rather than extend for a second year. She now lives in LA and we’ve gotten to see her when we travel there. We then matched with a new au pair from Colombia. Unfortunately, her driving skills had been significantly embellished, and we knew almost immediately she was not the right fit for our family. We moved quickly and found another au pair in rematch, originally from Mexico, who was living in Dallas.

That au pair finished her first year with us and stayed for a full second year. She even traveled with us to Portugal for nine weeks before heading back to Mexico.

We had planned for her to return to our family again in the spring, but a few bumps in the road came up. So once again, at the end of 2024, we found ourselves urgently needing childcare. This time, we matched with an au pair in a local rematch who was originally from Latvia. She was with our family for six months, and we mutually agreed not to extend for her second year.

In August 2025, our current au pair from Mexico joined us, and she has been the perfect fit! We’ve already agreed to extend for a second year.

Through all of that trial and error, I’ve refined the process. I’ve tightened our interview filters, sharpened our House Rules, and built a true manual of operations for our home that allows everyone to thrive.

I’m sharing these resources because I’ve lived them. I’ve also personally coached more than ten other families through the process successfully.

At this point, I know exactly what it takes to find the right person, how to integrate them into the rhythm of family life, and how to build a warm relationship while still maintaining the structure a high-functioning home requires.

I also recorded a full podcast episode on this if you want to add it to your lineup.

This guide is a deep dive into the systems I’ve spent the last five years refining.

The TLDR on Au Pairs

Au pairs are between 18 and 26 years old from another country who lives with your family on a cultural exchange visa. In exchange for a private room, board, and a weekly stipend, they provide up to 45 hours of childcare per week, no more than 10 hours per day.

The “Why” for our family:

Flexibility: Our au pair works a split shift, early mornings and afternoons, plus some evenings. We can shift hours when needed, extend one night a week for a built-in date night, and have support that can travel with us.
Connection: Our kids have someone familiar in their home who loves them.
Language: We care deeply about our kids being bilingual in Spanish. It’s probably the single biggest skill I wish I had developed earlier in life.
Cost: In a city like San Francisco, the math is hard to ignore. Once you factor in the stipend, food, phone, and agency fees, the total annual cost is around $28,000 depending on bonuses and extras. That’s more than half the cost of a full-time nanny in most cities, and one-third of the cost here in SF, which makes it a much more sustainable long-term solution for ongoing support.

How to find your right match

Finding the right au pair is exactly like hiring a team member at work. You need a process that filters for alignment, defaults to action, and screens for your specific family “vibe.”

Choose an agency: You must go through a government-regulated agency. We looked across several when we first started and found Cultural Care had the best pool for us, especially a strong concentration of Latin American and European au pairs. Many of our friends have also had great experiences with them.

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Define your non-negotiables: Do you need a strong driver? Someone who speaks a certain language? Someone with proven toddler experience? Someone who has cared for multiple children? Do you want them to eat dinner with you? Prefer they spend most time out of your house? Need someone who is willing to work weekends consistently?
The profile: Don’t just look at the photos. Read the essays for signs of maturity. Look for consistent childcare experience with children the same age as yours. Bonus points if they’ve worked in a daycare, preschool, or elementary school setting, not just “helping at church.” Your instinct may be to choose someone older, but we’ve actually had great experiences with au pairs between 21 and 24.
Interview with intention: Don’t just “chat.” Use a multi-interview structure to see how they handle stress and if their values align with yours. My exact interview process is below.
Timing matters: Start interviewing about three months before your ideal start date. If you have less than a month, you’ll likely need to focus only on au pairs already in the U.S., either those in rematch or those looking for a second-year extension with a new family.

So here is the exact 3-step interview process to follow, the exact questions to ask, and my exact house rules…

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Chapter 1: The Burnout You Don’t See Coming

Barbara Mighdoll — Mon, 02 Mar 2026 21:06:24 GMT

The first sign of burnout was not a breakdown.

It was my body.

From the outside, I looked exactly like someone who had it together.

I learned early that looking cool, calm and collected was part of the job. I got good at it. I’d say ‘no worries!’ when I was absolutely worried. I’d say yes to ownership beyond my capacity. I’d take on the emotional highs and lows of my team to keep them happy, motivated and successful.

I had the title, the team, the calendar full of meetings, the reputation for being the one who always delivered.

Inside, I was running on something that felt like adrenaline and pure will. I’d make lists just to feel in control. I’d over-prepare for meetings so no one could question me.

My body was sending subtle signs. I woke up tired even after sleeping (yes my kids definitely contributed). My patience got thinner. I felt like I was always on, always bracing, always one interruption away from snapping. I remember losing it over a box of cereal dumped on the carpet because I had zero buffer left… and reflecting back that my reaction was just as bad as my toddler’s when I peel the banana “wrong.”

I told myself it was a season. I told myself it was normal.

Every ambitious mom I knew looked like she was doing the same thing.

I kept lowering the bar for what I considered feeling ‘fine.’

Until in reality, I was far from fine. Very far.

If any part of you is thinking, ‘I’m fine, I’m just tired,’ I get it. But could that be a bigger signal?

A Full Life vs an Unsustainable One

Understanding burnout became important to me because it gave me a map.

It helped me stop treating my symptoms like a personal failure and start paying attention to what my body was trying to tell me. It was the first step toward what I now call The Fulfilled State.

And let me be clear: Working hard is not the problem. A 45-hour week might be intense, but it can be normal.

What isn’t normal is needing 60 to 80 hours to keep up.
What isn’t normal is feeling your chest tighten every time an email comes in.
What isn’t normal is living with a nervous system that never powers down.

99% of moms said they feel society puts pressure on women to ‘do it all and be it all’ in Peanut’s State of Invisibility Report. This is the root cause for many of us.

I’m not here to convince you to opt out of your ambition, or to sell you some fantasy version of “balance.”

I’m here to help you see the difference between a full life and an unsustainable one.

Today I’m going to share a simple diagnostic system for you:

a 2-minute self-assessment to set your baseline
the 5 Faces of Burnout based on Maslach Burnout Inventory
the early-warning signs before burnout becomes obvious

You’ll be able to recognize your pattern and take one small corrective move this week.

If you’re high-functioning and quietly struggling, this is going to feel uncomfortably accurate.

The Diagnosis That Changed My Outlook

But first I want to give you the real unfiltered story of how I hit my burnout breaking point.

In 2019, I got pregnant for the first time, then suffered a miscarriage at nine weeks. To say I was affected emotionally would be an understatement. And time would reveal the physical impact too.

But I only took two days off, then went right back to work. I told people I had the flu. I hated myself for lying. And I hated that lying felt safer than telling the truth.

Because I had my year’s biggest event coming up. Because I was already anxious about telling work I was pregnant.

A few weeks later, strange rashes appeared on my hands.

Then more symptoms. Months of testing, appointments, and uncertainty.

I kept thinking, please don’t let this be real, while also knowing something was already wrong.

I was finally diagnosed while pregnant with Caden with a rare autoimmune disease called….

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